My spouse is a loving person. Committed to me and our family. The only thing my spouse is not committed to is praying. He knows what is right and what is wrong. What we as Muslims are required to do. He does fast during Ramadan and fulfil his obligations as a husband and father. But the only thing he doesn’t do is pray. So, what can I, as his spouse, do in this situation?
Give lots of positivity and encouragements.
All Muslims know that praying five times a day is a must. But not all Muslims find it easy to lay down the sejadah and start praying. Whether it is out of laziness or lack of knowledge on how to perform solat or not putting prayers as a priority, what we can do for them is to give lots of positivity and encouragements.
“And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allah’s) forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affair…” (Al-Quran, 3:159)
Forcing and nagging at them endlessly may not be the best method. Show them that you are ready to support and guide them when they are ready to take the first step to pray
Attend lectures and conferences
Look out for any lectures or conferences organized by the mosques or the Muslim community. Ask your spouse to attend it with you. And after the event, bring your spouse out for dinner or coffee treat. Treat it as a bonding session between you and your spouse. Discuss about what the two of you learnt and how you can implement what both of you learned into your lives.
Set a good example for your spouse
If you want your spouse to pray, then you must be setting a good example yourself. You can’t be badgering him/her about solat when you are doing your prayers only occasionally. Be the person that your spouse can look up to and go to whenever they are having issues. When you are doing your prayers regularly, your spouse will start to notice. In shaa allah, when they notice how you are praying with ease, they will be more motivated to join you.
Make dua’a for your spouse
Never stop making dua’a for your spouse. Not matter how stubborn they may be, no matter how difficult the situation may seem. Always remember that Allah is the best planner and all you need to do is tawwakul.
Make dua’a that you want to perform prayers with your spouse. That you want to perform Umrah and Haj with your spouse. And that you want to be with your spouse in Jannah. In shaa allah, all your prayers will be answered.